by Harriet Lerner
In this videotaped public presentation developed from her best-selling book, The Dance of Deception: Pretending and Truth-Telling in Women's Lives, noted therapist Harriet Lerner takes a lively, thought-provoking look at the complex issues surrounding lying, secrecy, and silence--as well as honesty and self-revelation--in the lives of women.
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Out of Print What roles do self-concealment and deception play in people's lives? In what ways do women lie to themselves and others, and what purposes do such lies serve? Is lying always bad? Is truth-telling always good?
In this videotaped public presentation developed from her best-selling book, The Dance of Deception: Pretending and Truth-Telling in Women's Lives, noted therapist Harriet Lerner takes a lively, thought-provoking look at the complex issues surrounding lying, secrecy, and silence--as well as honesty and self-revelation--in the lives of women. "The dance metaphor," Dr. Lerner observes in the video, "is a good one because the ways that we show the false and hide the real is at the center of how we choreograph our relationships with others and how we move in the world."
To understand this interpersonal "dance," Dr. Lerner looks beyond simplistic, polarized notions that all lying is "bad" and all truth-telling is "good" by exploring the various implications--positive and negative--of speaking openly and holding back. Drawing from her own clinical practice as well as from an eclectic range of feminist, sociological, historical, and popular literature, Dr. Lerner describes how family, culture and ethnicity, as well as dominant societal attitudes shape our beliefs and values concerning self-revelation, candor, and secrecy. Her goal in doing so, as she explains to viewers, is to "widen the path" of truth-telling for women about a range of issues once considered unworthy, unspeakable, or taboo.
Viewers Will Learn:
- How family, culture, and society influence our beliefs and behaviors regarding self-revelation and concealment
- How dominant culture values have affected women's freedom to speak about "taboo" issues, and to be heard, believed, and listened to
- The effects of secrecy and silence on the emotional climate in family systems
- The circular relationship between stigma, secrecy, and shame, and how to break out of this destructive cycle
Bracketed by audience reactions at the beginning and end of the speech, this engaging and provocative video uncovers deep-rooted and often hidden issues with warmth, humor, and rare insight.
69 min DVD Video
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